It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle

It Didn’t Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle

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“This groundbreaking book offers a compelling understanding of inherited trauma and fresh, powerful tools for relieving its suffering. Mark Wolynn is a wise and trustworthy guide on the journey toward healing.” —Tara Brach, PhD, author of Radical Acceptance and True Refuge

It Didn’t Start With You and its companion, The Official It Didn’t Start with You Workbook, provide a groundbreaking approach to transforming traumatic legacies passed down in families over generations, by an acclaimed expert in the field

Depression. Anxiety. Chronic Pain. Phobias. Obsessive thoughts. The evidence is compelling: the roots of these difficulties may not reside in our immediate life experience or in chemical imbalances in our brains—but in the lives of our parents, grandparents, and even great-grandparents. The latest scientific research, now making headlines, supports what many have long intuited—that traumatic experience can be passed down through generations. It Didn’t Start with You builds on the work of leading experts in post-traumatic stress, including Mount Sinai School of Medicine neuroscientist Rachel Yehuda and psychiatrist Bessel van der Kolk, author of The Body Keeps the Score. Even if the person who suffered the original trauma has died, or the story has been forgotten or silenced, memory and feelings can live on. These emotional legacies are often hidden, encoded in everything from gene expression to everyday language, and they play a far greater role in our emotional and physical health than has ever before been understood.

As a pioneer in the field of inherited family trauma, Mark Wolynn has worked with individuals and groups on a therapeutic level for over twenty years. It Didn’t Start with You offers a pragmatic and prescriptive guide to his method, the Core Language Approach. Diagnostic self-inventories provide a way to uncover the fears and anxieties conveyed through everyday words, behaviors, and physical symptoms. Techniques for developing a genogram or extended family tree create a map of experiences going back through the generations. And visualization, active imagination, and direct dialogue create pathways to reconnection, integration, and reclaiming life and health. It Didn’t Start With You is a transformative approach to resolving longstanding difficulties that in many cases, traditional therapy, drugs, or other interventions have not had the capacity to touch.

7 reviews for It Didn’t Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle

  1. James Walker –

    Best resource I have ever found on healing generational trauma. I really thought that a book could not make such a difference – I assumed after years of therapy and different healing modalities that I would have to do some kind of crazy physical feat or something for it to shift from my body – but reading this book and doing the exercises in it healed parts of me that I always struggled to understand and did not know how to eradicate from my being – facing it through the support of this book healed things from my mind and system that had plagued me since 14. I highly recommend this book to everyone and have bought multiple copies to gift.

  2. A. Villalobos –

    I have always been interested in epigenetics and what we inherit. I really appreciated how the subject matter was discussed in a way that is easy to understand for someone who isn’t a geneticist or psychiatrist; it puts understanding and healing some of the inherited weight we carry within reach. It also helped me to see my parents and grandparents in a different light. I’m so thankful this book exists, an highly recommend it if you’re doing shadow work; it will help open doors that have felt stuck for a long time.

  3. Sophie Laurent –

    Fantastic book for those of you who experienced childhood and adult trauma from your parents and the in turn from a partner.

  4. Michael Reeves –

    Recommended by my therapist. This is a great book to understand yourself and trauma, and how it’s not always your fault. For me, very helpful to kind of begin the process of forgiveness

  5. Greg G. –

    Such a valuable resource to help people understand themselves and those they love.

  6. Emma Collins –

    A colleague of mine encouraged me to read this book, when I was working in a forensic high secure hospital – I was busy learning about trauma based therapy and this book has played a great role in helping me understand my patients and a lot about myself as well.

  7. Paul Meleng –

    Well written, plain English description and examples, backed up by all the links and research references.

    Could be a breakthrough for many people. The unease you carry could have been installed in earlier generations and never “discharged” , hence it can reside in you. You can get rid of it.

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